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No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women And Children
by Paul T. Coughlin, Paul Coughlin
Product Group: Book
Publisher: Bethany House (2005-09-01)
ISBN: 0764200925
EAN: 9780764200922
Dewy Decimal #: 248.842
Hardcover: 224 pages
Release Date: 2005-09-01
SKU: 08080016
Condition: Like New Like New
Comments: Hardcover. Like new cover and text. Like new dust jacket with very minor shelfwear. Near Fine condition. Beautiful book.
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Editorial Reviews
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Product Description
“Recovering nice guy” Paul Coughlin points the way for all men who yearn to live a life of boldness and conviction—like Jesus. Using humorous examples from his own life, powerful and poignant stories, and vivid examples from contemporary culture, Coughlin shows how he learned to say no to the “nice guy” syndrome. After all, Christian nice guys aren’t always so nice. In the name of appearing Christian by being agreeable, they can lie, keep secrets, manipulate, duck responsibility, and much more. Using the biblical model of Christ as his example of a real man, Coughlin shows men how to become both gentle and bold. A powerful challenge and a hopeful message that elevates the true biblical model of manhood above prevailing views in the church and contemporary culture, this important book helps men discover who they are in Christ and how to live for Him.
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Customer Reviews
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Must Read Book for Nice Guys who want to change!!
Rating  (4)
Date: 2008-09-24
I saw this book at a used bookstore last week and I bought it on a whim. I'm glad I picked it up.
As one who is a recovering CNG, reading this book has become the cure to our disease.
Jesus wasn't nice, He was good. He was assertive when he needed to be and gentle when he needed to be.
Coughlin writes how the church has skewed it into the extreme that following Jesus means you have to be nice.
So untrue!!
Mr. Coughlin, thank you for writing this book. I hope the words of this book will cure other CNG's from the disease of niceness.
Bravo!!!
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A Good Step In The Right Direction
Rating (4)
Date: 2008-04-25
1 out of 1 customers found this reveiw helpful
The Christian church in America is just starting to wake up to the need of ministering to men. Started by Promise Keepers and eventually led by John Eldredge and David Murrow, the movement has had its fits and starts, its moments of excess, and the occasional bad exegesis, but nobody can deny that the masculine heart of the Church is in serious trouble.
Paul Coughlin has now stepped up to the plate and offered us his viewpoint and though it is not perfect and though there are some points that seem rather outré, he does the Christian church a good service in making us face what we have done: allowed the culture and zeitgeist of our era affect the Body of Christ instead of allowing the Church to affect the culture.
The Christian church needs men who understand the roles that God has called them to, the roles of a righteous king, a godly warrior, a Christ-centered priest, and a holy lover. Coughlin is a good step in the right direction.
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It's about time! What a book!
Rating  (5)
Date: 2008-03-30
1 out of 1 customers found this reveiw helpful
I love this book! I've been a Christian for over 30 years, have been involved in "men's ministry" and "marriage ministry" a large part of that time, and have been frustrated how the Christian church in general has marginalized men, and tamed them into denying their true nature.
If you liked Wild at Heart, you'll love No More Christian Nice Guy. It describes the problem from the perspective of Christian culture, whereas Eldgredge described it from our inner nature. Both are necessary, but I find myself returning to the Coughlin book again and again.
I didn't think I needed this book, but I bought it to help counsel others. After all, I'm former law enforcement, a lawyer, a martial arts instructor, I didn't think I was infected with the Nice Guy Disease. But I was, and this book has helped me and others tremendously.
This book does a thorough job of describing and diagnosing the problem. And the last few chapters are all about how to get healed of the disease to please, the passive, withdrawn state of Christian men.
A few sections didn't apply to me, since I had a fairly happy upbringing, and I have a wonderful wife. But the feminization of the church, and how we're taught to sit down, shut up, deny our masculine natures, enjoy the feminine songs about a meek and mild Jesus in a dress, almost drove me crazy and almost drove me out of organized church.
I have given out around 10 copies, and often couple it with Dr. Laura's book on the care and feeding of husbands, and make a joint gift to a Christian couple who is struggling to reconcile what the Bible says, what the churches say, and what their own natures are telling them.
A group of campus ministries brought Paul Coughlin to town, and it was great for the men to hear him speak, but more than that, they heard his message, bought his books, and will be better and stronger for it.
Half the population needs this book. The other half needs to buy it for their men!
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Repetitive, Unfounded, Awesome
Rating (4)
Date: 2008-02-08
1 out of 1 customers found this reveiw helpful
This book is not without it's faults. It's annoyingly repetitive. It also doesn't present a very good argument. Coughlin makes blanket statements, and just when he starts to back up his conclusions, he jumps forward and makes another. Poorly researched. Poorly executed.
That being said, I'm going to follow his lead and make a blanket statement, unbacked by concrete details. This book is a life saver. Or maybe life-giver would be a better way to put it, and I'm a stronger man because of it.
Thanks Paul.
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Hard Core
Rating (5)
Date: 2008-01-07
0 out of 1 customers found this reveiw helpful
Loved this book. A manly perspective of Christ. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, and this book is useful as well.
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